I only do 3 or 4 weddings a year because I like to invest a lot into the counseling before hand. I ask the couple to give me at least 6 months before they get married to do the counseling.
They have to complete a compatibility test and read 2 books besides do a homework assignment every time we meet. This may seem excessive but somewhere in our society we have lost the accountability and serving our partners.
It seems like in so many couples the man wants the wife to be submissive but yet he doesn't want to live up to the other part of the scripture which says he will lay down his life for his wife as Christ layed down His life for the church.
It seems like men want to control the women not share or be equal with the women. They feel that their wives are more a posses ion than a help mate. They feel that their wives should be a slave more than a partner.
NO where do I find that this is the way God intended marriage to be.
Every once in a while I come across a man who is totally different from this way of thinking. I want to call this person the silent Servant.
As I was counseling one couple who are living together, I asked the woman how she got her toothpaste out of the tube and she said she always squeezes from the top. then I asked the man how he got out the toothpaste to which he said he squeezes and then rolls it all to the top. The woman looked at him and she couldn't believe it. He said how do you think you were always able to get the toothpaste from the top.
He said it bothered him that she did it but he felt it wasn't a big enough thing to complain about because he loved her so he just kept doing it. I asked him how long he had been doing this and he said for 2 years. I asked her if she knew he had been doing this for her for 2 years and she said she had no idea but she wondered how come she always had tooth paste at the top.
I love this. So many complain about little things and then there are others who just go ahead and take care of the problem with nothing said.
What kind of person are you???
The world needs more silent servants especially from the husbands.
Just a thought.
(I do not agree with people living together but I do believe in marrying people to get them out of this situation.)
It Is All Good.
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I thank you for all the counseling you gave AC and myself almost 9 years ago now. We have so many friends that didn't have counseling before marriage and now their marriages are on shaky ground if they haven't all ready ended. It was and is a blessing to have had counseling. By the way AC is a silent servant and I thank the Lord everyday. Monica
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